Nobody likes rain during a parade.
Big, ugly, unwelcome water droplets sent in spite.
It really, REALLY bothers me when someone makes a point of extinguishing another person’s enthusiasm. I’ve learned over the years, or hardened (become indifferent?) to most other people’s criticisms and cynicisms.
There are people in my life who have proven, through their own ambition and enlightenment, to be my inspiration and my mentors. And NEVER once have they ever made me feel beneath them or inadequate. Oh don’t get me wrong, there have been those who have tried to squash my optimism, but I’ve learned that most often such behaviour
is usually a result of their own feelings of inadequacy or misplaced sense of self-importance.
There are the ones who wait around for OTHERS to request their “expertise” or their “presence” and when they are not asked, berate the system or the criticize the community….
…I’m sorry the world doesn’t work that way. You have to look and sound and want to be engaged for people to consult or collaborate with you.
Sure, you may have had your own parade rained upon in the past and therefore view potential for future interaction as threatening and “not worth your while”. And that’s fine,
if your pride won’t allow you to get over your own disappointment
you don’t have any right to rain on anyone else’s parade.
It’s especially disheartening when you see this happening to young people. They are the ones who will find the damage more difficult to overcome. We have to encourage positivity
even if any sort of manifestation seems impossible.
To gently caution is different than cynical, or worse yet, arrogant dismissal.